So I walked into the gym the other day and saw a billboard style sign. Get arms like [some already-forgotten name here]. And I think WHY? Then I have to stop and check my memory to find out if I've said it aloud or if it's obvious to others what I'm talking about, because passing me, right then, is a guy with arms like that. Arms nearly as large as me. OK, maybe not quite, I'm sort of large, but Holy Cow. Do people really think that's attractive?
I mean, arms larger than my arms is good on men. But then, just by being male most men have that made. I'm not a weight lifter so I don't have particularly large arms. Normal arms. But arms that look like their measurements might equal that of my ribcage?
I don't get it.
But then on the female side of things, there is that saying about not being able to be too rich, too thin or... something else I've forgotten and I know I've seen photos of women who are most certainly too thin. A set of twins maybe? And half of Hollywood in the thin years. I prefer the big-boob years of fashion because there are fewer protruding collarbones in those years. Fewer visible rib-cages and empty-bag breasts almost entirely visible in low cut gowns that would have been sexy if the women hadn't starved their figures away.
But what's wrong with people looking normal? Sure, feel free to go to the gym and get fit, but when you go often enough to have arms with a greater individual mass than the whole of my seven year old, that seems a little off to me. I think about it a little while creating characters. I haven't made any extra fit or extra tiny people in my stories so far, but when I create my people, how can I make them normal without seeming derogative? Without pointing out a lack of over-muscle-ization. (without creating new words for the occasion?)
I admire a bit of roundness on my men. I don't know why. For years after Lake Placid came out, Hubby got to be jealous of Oliver Platt. He is absolutely adorable. Also Jack Black, Kevin Smith, and Nathan Lane. And Hubby, of course.
But how do you describe them, or someone like them, in a world where six-pack abs is nearly a synonym for attractive? Without making it all about personality and overlooking the physical almost entirely? Without making it seem like a fetish-style attraction to flab or making the attraction happen despite the lack of the perfect model's body?
It is possible?
So that's where I am right now.
Thinking of descriptions and people and what attractive means and how to use it all to create characters I would enjoy having over -- if they were real. And wondering if I have a fetish for slightly rounded men.
Where are you?